In our daily lives– at school, at home and especially online, people often try to win arguments through anger or raising their voices. It is common to see arguments quickly become heated shouting competitions, where each person attempts to overpower the other in volume rather than in logic. However, this approach rarely leads to real solutions or mutual respect. Desmond Tutu wisely stated, “Don’t raise your voice, improve your argument.” His message reminds us that strength in communication does not come from being loud but from presenting ideas that are rational and effective. When we choose calm reasoning and clear evidence, our ideas become far more convincing. Understanding this not only helps us resolve conflicts peacefully and respectfully but also teaches us how to communicate in a way that leads to positive outcomes.
Raising the Voice
Raising your voice can primarily cause conversations to break down. When someone starts yelling, first of all, others shut their minds because they feel disrespected or attacked. For example, in a group project at school, arguments can quickly become heated if people primarily focus on proving they are “right” rather than why they think something is workable. In contrast, when someone calmly presents their facts or logical reasoning, the discussion becomes more positive and true progress is made.
Secondly, one loses their credibility once they begin raising their voice. Shouting often gives the impression that they have run out of strong ideas or reliable evidence to back their opinion. Instead of making their argument more convincing, when they start yelling, it makes them seem less mature, less prepared and less in control of their emotions. People may stop listening altogether, not because the point is wrong, but because the argument becomes disrespectful or stifling. As a result, the attention shifts away from the actual issue, towards their behaviour.
Last of all, raising your voice wastes energy that could be used more effectively otherwise. When people shout during debates & discussions, they exhaust themselves without actually delivering the point. The extra volume does not help others understand their point better, instead it drains their own energy and shuts down all open lines of communication. The atmosphere becomes negatively charged and everybody is then ready to take out their daggers to engage in a scuffle which is absolutely not required. By using calm communication, people can express their ideas in a way that actually contributes to solving the problem. Instead of wasting effort on shouting, it’s far more productive to invest that energy into forming stronger, clearer arguments.
Improving the Argument
Improving the argument is a skill that does not only lead to a strong logos, it also lays the foundation of rational thinking which is crucial for any progressive idea to take shape. It helps us grow intellectually as we take time to think before jumping into action.
Secondly, when we take the time to find evidence and explain our opinions clearly, we strengthen our ability to think critically. These skills are valuable way beyond the classroom. In work environments people are required to make important decisions and communicate with their fellow colleagues or customers.
Thirdly, a polished argument which does not border on hostility or vanity can save many relationships. In relationships, the ability to calmly express feelings or concerns leads to healthier connections based on mutual respect and collective decision-making. Also, a finely chiselled out argument is often considered more persuasive and makes the person confident, because they understand WHY they believe something. Last of all, a sagacious point exhibits maturity and confidence. This deeper understanding means we can participate in discussions respectfully and contribute ideas that can effectively provide solutions instead of creating more problems.
Overall, Desmond Tutu’s message teaches us that real power is not in the volume of speech, but in the depth of reasoning. Rather than shouting to be heard, we should make the argument so strong that even our whispers leave a mark. When we choose to improve our arguments, we improve our ability to make a positive change in the world. This approach not only leads to better solutions but also provides the basis for mutual respect and open communication in our personal and professional spheres. By improving our arguments, we become more thoughtful, mature and responsible individuals. In the end, Tutu’s message teaches us that the best arguments are built on integrity– not volume.
Writer : Harman
Grade : 9 (Year 2026)
Place : Sydney, Australia
